About Relationship Recovery Coaching
What is relationship Coaching and how does it benefit me?
A Relationship Coach acts in a similar way any coach does. They help build your confidence and empower you for a task. They ask you pertinent questions to establish your priorities, help you create goals, and then work with you to fulfill them. Coaching works differently than therapy and counselors do. Coaching begins where you are right now and propels you to your goal in a much shorter amount of time.
Relationship Recovery starts by having a healthy love for yourself and having an acceptance of who you are. Leif and Kristen specialize in working with clients where one or both has experienced the following:
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Divorce
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Lack of Trust
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Co-Dependence
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Infidelity/Betrayal
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Low Sex Drive
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Lack of Intimacy
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Shame/Guilt/Despair
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Domestic Violence
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History of Abuse
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Drug Addiction/Alcoholism
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Have Been Sexually Assaulted
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Low Self-Esteem/Low Self Worth
Some illness or emotional issues are present before you marry and some may occur during the marriage. Unfortunately we can’t control disease and people getting sick but we do have control over how we react to it. 70 percent of marriages fail when a spouse becomes chronically or critically ill. Men are 4 times more likely to leave their wives when they become ill. In marriages where a child gets diagnosed with illness like Autism or Cancer the divorce rate goes up to 86 percent! Shocking statistics like this is all the more reason we need tools and knowledge to help us survive it!
The average length of a marriage is 7 years. Being married means that you both are working as a team towards a common goal. Regardless of financial issues, age, sex, weight, race, or religion, no one person is above or better than the other. In a healthy situation both parties are equal with both sets of needs being met. Holding back vital necessities such as money, intimacy, affection, and emotional availability in an effort to control or manipulate a spouse is considered abuse.
Your session begins with a free personality profile. If you are in a relationship then both of you are required to take it. After you take the quiz online you schedule your complimentary coaching session. During your appointment, your profile is analyzed looking for key areas where misunderstanding and miss communication may be taking place. They will look at the different ways you perceive each other and what is your underlying motivations of your actions. Learning HOW we communicate is is very powerful and can quickly defuse arguments.
The type of personality test used is free and breaks people down into 4 main categories. Leif and Kristen will talk with you about the different colors and what they mean to you specifically. A detailed description and directions for the test will be given once you fill out the contact form. Based on the analyzation of your test you will experience a coaching session based on those findings to get you started! You can begin to turn your relationship around immediately!
From there you decide if you wish to go into coaching together. It is imperative that if you are in a relationship that you both come together! It’s very challenging to address your marriage if both of you are not on board. Please note: Your complimentary session is just that, complimentary! You will not be hassled or led into any additional services! This is simply a gift to help people understand that their relationships are important, and how we give and receive information is the most valuable aspect of that relationship.
Our coaching terms:
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We offer a few different styles of coaching, if scheduling a relationship coaching session then both parties are required to be present.
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If we see you individually first, we are ethically unable to coach you as a couple afterwards. It gives an unfair advantage to the person that came first.
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After the initial visit then coaching may be broken down into individual sessions with Kristen working with the women, and Leif working with the men. We do not cross-coach opposite members of the sex. Your final session will also require you both to be present.
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Please take your coaching sessions seriously and be committed to the process.
Leif and Kristen specialize in working with older adults with any of the above conditions that are:
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Divorced and thinking about dating
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Married but on the edge of divorce
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Are remarried with a step family
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Have had one or more divorce
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Have experienced infidelity
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Keep dating the same kind of person over and over
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Wanting to improve the condition of their relationship
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Learn to communicate more effectively
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Have problems with extended family accepting your new spouse
We do our sessions in the comfort of your home via Skype! All you need is a computer and some quiet time for your session. We are a global institute and have found there is little difference between being in person and being at home. Often we are able to schedule more convenient appointment times for our clients!